Sunday, April 06, 2025

I don't even know what to say....

I've talked before about meeting my Geologist friend on a New Year's Eve hike in the Kickapoo Valley Reserve. Little did I know how our friendship would develop into a relationship good for the both of us.

Let me be clear. This is a friendship.

This friendship has extended to my husband. Hmmm, let me clarify.

I got a text from Jason asking if I'd like a day this weekend to get out and go hiking. He'd come and stay with Rich and make sure he stayed safe for me to take as much time as I wanted to go hiking and photographing.

He volunteered.

He volunteered to drive two hours to come and spend the day with his fluff ball dogs and care for my husband while I took a DAY OFF. No limits on time. Just go and do what I love to do.

Jason showed up and immediately Rich and Charlie were ecstatic. Rich, because he enjoys Jason's company and gift of gab. Charlie, because he likes his hiking pals Piper and Felix...oh and let's not forget Jason, his other most favorite human who has dog treats.

Rich and Jason settled down with a cup of coffee and I started to chat with them. Rich said, "I thought you were going hiking?" Jason smirked and said, "Get going! We have this!" [or something to that effect]

I grabbed my backpack and hesitated. The guys shooed me out the door with a "Take as long as you like!"

I started down the Visitors Center Trail and then stopped, stunned. This was the first time in 10 years that I didn't have a time limit on my hikes. Always, always before, I tried to get out and back within at least 3 hours. Since my last exploration in the first week of January, I've not been able to go hiking at the Reserve.

I literally had to sit down on a rock when it hit me. Jason and Rich said, "Go do whatever you want and take your time."

Wait. I had a free day with no time restraints. If I wanted to wander about for hours AND take my time, I could. Is this what freedom feels like?


I was able to stop and ponder lichen on fallen oak branches. I could sit in the dirt and gaze at the Kickapoo River and listen to the sounds of the water and the birds. Since I was taking my time I searched the south facing bluff for signs of ephemeral plants.

The twin leaves of the Spring Beauties were emerging from the leaf debris. And then I spotted a patch of Wood Anemones. 
Normally, I would have taken a quick shot and moved on. But I didn't. I swapped out lenses to try out my Lensbaby Sol. 



...and why not? Why not take the time to explore something much different.


I did move on after enjoying some quiet time out of the cold wind. It was cold and cloudy with a breeze from the NW. But overcast days do make for good photo opportunities.

I could hear Canada Geese squawking and making noise in the west pond, so I headed through the muddy trails to get close to an area where I could hide on the pond bank behind some brush and photograph them.
To my delight I did find the Trumpeter Swans again this year!
I didn't have my 100-400mm lens as it is pretty heavy to go brush busting with, but here they are!

Ducks are so spooky! However eventually I will hopefully have the freedom at some point in my life to set myself up in a blind and sit for a long time to catch beautiful ducks.



I moved on and went off trail to follow the river. The winds kept me busy putting my hood up and taking it off. The sun would flash out for a moment and then disappear. I wasn't worried. I was happy even if I had to wear gloves.

I heard a Ring Neck Pheasant calling, I heard more Canada Geese, Ducks flew overhead to other ponds, and Song Sparrows sang. Blue Jays complained, and a Northern Flicker chatted from a scrub oak tree.

And after trekking through lowland fields I was amazed to find this bird alighting on a scrub oak!


Further beyond this mystical yellow bird was an area that I knew Sandhill Cranes like to hang out.

Photographing the Cranes was very tricky. They were beyond an area of thick brush next to the Kickapoo River. They were walking along quietly. I felt like I was spying on them. I did get one decent shot I think. They reminded me of secret lovers looking for a place to hold a tryst. 




The highlight of the day was laying on the multi use trail in the sunlight and seeing this fellow.





The black top was warm from the sunlight that emerged and I had the Reserve to myself. So Why Not?

I think I laid on the ground watching this guy for at least 10 minutes. Something I generally don't have the luxury of time for.



I'll stop right here as I've got to get out now and continue with cleaning up gravel and cleaning up the multiple flower gardens I have as well as many other household chores waiting for me. 

There are more photos, but I'll save them for another time.
When I got home, the 'boys' were laughing and having a great discussion.

Sometimes having someone else around to talk to is more interesting as old stories are new to the visiting friend. It worked out so well, we are going to try it again.

19 comments:

  1. How wonderful your by chance friend Jason is! Everyone had a good day!!! Love the turtle photos:)

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    1. Isn't that weird? By chance we ran into each other and have remained friends. Then this.

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  2. Oh my, Jason is a true friend indeed, so wise and empathetic to understand how valuable respite is. Glad you had a free day and enjoyed yourself so much!

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    1. I am lucky to have met Jason. He has a deeper understanding of empathy than most people.

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  3. Glad you have a good friend to give you a nice break. As a hospice and VA nurse, I always found it amazing how a guy likes to have another guy to gab with. Bless you for all you do. (That turtle has really nasty claws!) Linda in Kansas

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    1. Jason gave up time of something he could be doing to take time for both of us. I know the social workers at the VA caregiver program are always asking me how I could take a break. Thankfully, it did happen.
      I didn't realize how much I missed being my own person.

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  4. I am smiling so big for you! What a wonderful gift - time. Big thanks to Jason. Just grinning ear to ear for you! And the lovely photos you are blessing us with a just a bonus.

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  5. Anonymous1:36 PM

    You deserve many days like this. What a friend! Lori

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  6. That was a wonderful gift of a day. I vividly remember those time constraints, always having to be back for medications etc. never more than a short while away, checking the time.
    I'm glad you enjoyed it.

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    1. Yes! It is like being tied to a stop watch. That was the first time in years I didn't have to figure out how long or short I was out enjoying nature.

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  7. What a lovely gift he gave you. What a generous person.
    This is what I do for my volunteer work, sit with the ill or aged for their families. It is rewarding.
    I have had to take time off, though. It is stressful, as you know.

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    1. I get it, it has to be stressful for you also. I've done it for my MIL, FIL, and now hubby. I almost felt guilty with all the joy I had!

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  8. What a gift, and you appreciated it and used it well.

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    1. I did. Sitting in the dirt and peering at wildflowers, while listening to the river and birds was...amazing.

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  9. Good friends are hard to come by, great ones even more so. Be sure to hang onto this one! You made great use of your time.

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  10. What a wonderful gift Jason gave you! And you surely did make the most of it. Yes, guys need other guys to shoot the breeze with.

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  11. What a wonderfilled unexpected day of much needed respite! You found and enjoyed so much of nature spring-ing. Jason is such an amazing friend!! So glad your paths crossed! Bonus that Rich also enjoys his company.

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  12. Anonymous8:50 AM

    So thankful you had a day to do what you wanted to do. What a wonderful thing for Jason to do. RHill, TX

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