Monday, January 19, 2026

Visit

My youngest son and his fiancé came for a visit this weekend. I don't know if 'youngest' is really appropriate for someone in his mid 40's, but there you are.

They didn't bring the kids so it was a much more different experience than I've had before with them. I got to sit down and actually converse rather than have them dealing with all the kids.

I finally found out how they met, why they met, and how Jer's life has changed since they met. Jer is the kid that wore his heart on his sleeve. 

An Angelic child? Nope. Funny? Sometimes. A Pain? Yes. Hyper? Yes. 
Obnoxious? Sometimes. Big Heart? Mostly. Organized? Nope. Impulsive? OHHHH yes.

I could add more regarding my 'kid'. But I've settled on not trying to tell him on how I think HE should live his life. 

I'm the parent and I always want to see my sons do their absolute best.

Jer's relationship with Em seems to have pointed him in a different direction. He told me he was no longer going to be mad at the world. [Truly, I don't know what for.]

Sunday morning I took them to breakfast [they'd taken me to supper!]. Then I asked him if he'd like to visit Readstown's indoor Flea Markets. They were game.

Crazy Frank's has two stores in this small town. Two stores that are basically huge Garage Sales by Vendors. You can find baby shoes to antique glassware, toys, clothes, and absolute junk in both locations.

While we were in the first one, Jer said we should play a game next time he visits. The game would involve going into to these Crazy stores and purchasing an outfit from head to toe from the items we could find.

He put this hat on and modeled it for us. 



The crazy thing was, we walked around and found the most ridiculous clothes we could find. Future planning for the 'contest'. 

Jer had his eye on white and rainbow white jumpsuit. I started looking at some of the odd and crazy weird hats. Em picked up a pair of rubber cowboy boots that had daisies on them. We laughed and giggled as we went through all the booths and items.

I did find a 'monster toy' for a $1 along with a nice bud vase to add to my collection for $3, and a $1 old metal tractor.



We actually spent hours in both stores, enjoying wondering about who collected these things and how junky some stuff was and how nice other pieces were. I found a rocking chair that I fell in love with. Dangit! Sold!

The weather outside was rather horrid. The temps were below zero and the windchills pretty nasty. Plus it started snowing again while we were in the stores.

But we had a blast. 

The stores got seriously busy while we were there. It seems to be a place that anyone can go on a crappy day to browse through other folk's stuff on a subzero snowy day.

Thing is, my weekend would have been a bit lonely. I do get lonely once in a while so there is that.

So my weekend was full of laughter and chit chat catching up with one son who had been so distant for so long. [actually it was a mutual distance thing, I hadn't liked his attitude or what he was doing and he didn't care if I cared or not]


15 comments:

  1. Anonymous9:45 AM

    Sounds like a wonderful visit and great inside fun during frigid weather. I love to go thrifting, but need to think of getting rid of some stuff! I contacted a local auctioneer to sell some “treasures”. RHill, TX

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    1. Yes, I have to prepare to do the same only it will probably be a huge auction. Hubby was creative and was a welder, he could modify just about anything and collected lots of metal to use.
      He couldn't let it go at all while he was alive. So equipment, metal, farm stuff and what I call junk and other stuff will be sold with an auctioneer.

      I'm 'cleaning' house so to speak.

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  2. This sounds like a good time for a lot of reasons.

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    1. It was. We've had a rocky relationship since he was 18 and it is nice to see him decide we were still mom and son.

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  3. Being a mom has its moments. I think back to what kind of daughter I was, I guess wayward would fit. Hopefully your son and you will continue to enjoy each others company.

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  4. What a great visit. And he is your younger son - my baby is in his 40's too. It is fun to make friends with your children as adults. I'm glad his outlook has changed and that you both are able to enjoy each other's company. Your thrift store game sounds like so much fun! I love it when I wonder and find nothing, then turn a corner and ZAP something calls my name!

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  5. You can never tell how relationships will go -- this way, that way, or around the other way.

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  6. Anonymous4:51 PM

    LD....Yes my sons are my friends but we don['t get too close anymore. Both have married in different ways that takes them to different lives than I live. I am glad they you got to reconnect and communication took place.

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  7. Sounds like a real nice visit. I always enjoy when ours comes over and even though he is 46, it's hard not to offer advice here and there.

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  8. Anonymous6:25 PM

    What a gas! I love the hat your son found and look forward to seeing the outfits you pick in the future. Sounds like things are going in the right direction and I'm glad you had some company! Lori

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  9. Sounds like you had a wonderful weekend visiting with your son and his bride-to-be. And Crazy Franks! What a happenin' place!

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  10. What a nice adventure. You just gotta go back and fetch that hat for his next birthday!? I've tried to teach my one and only kid to not lose being a kid while becoming all grown up. Linda in Kansas

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  11. Maybe a reconciliation is in the cards.

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  12. What a lovely weekend!
    I am estranged from my youngest, in his 40s. I've a similar sentiment. We're just not good together.

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    1. As a parent we always want the best for our kids. I'm done trying to be his parent, now we can just be friends without judgement.
      It is easier.

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